Most of us think we are good communicators just because we do so much of it. Often we are failing miserably at it and need to understand important decisions and actions are needed to succeed.
Your subconscious mind computes 40 bits vs. 20 bits per second processed by your conscious mind. Create auto-pilot habits to dramatically improve your life.
Holistic chiropractic physician, Dr. Dan Fazio opens this team talk discussing the power of the subconscious mind referencing the work of Dr. Bruce Lipton. He explains that the rate of the subconscious mind is 500,000 times more capable of processing information than the conscious mind. This is why we need to form habits that will drive our behavior automatically.
Marketing and PR expert and Ironman athlete Scott Kolbe shares his before and after pictures and health profile, focusing on his holistic approach to becoming a happier and healthier person. Scott shares how strong he is growing and how many improvements he is experiencing because he has created new habits that shape significant positive changes.
Dr. Fazio continues the presentation by giving all participants the following important key habits for making lasting life-style changes. They include:
Both Scott and Dan end this presentation encouraging viewers to set up new habits, practice them consistently no matter what, and soon they become second-nature.
Dr. Dan Fazio is a wellness expert specializing in the proactive creation of health and prevention of disease. To get direct support from Dr. Fazio, email him at firstname.lastname@example.org or call him at 636-227-4442.
If you would like to know more about experiential branding, leveraging public relations, and creating a stage for your business that your customers will not forget, call KolbeCo and ask for Scott at 636.379.3895.
Practical neuroscientist Stephen Hager uses a highly witty, playful example of childhood experiences with Santa Claus to communicate keenly how standardization helps people and businesses. He describes how to use new, mindful thinking in order to adopt new behaviors and get new results. In his presentation, he helps participants think about, focus on and improve results, making the connection between what a person thinks and why that is highly related to results.
Successful business owner and organizational development expert Jim Canada opens his presentation with the truism that if you are not moving ahead, you are falling behind. He asserts change is key to how well you grow and succeed in your personal and professional life. He also maintains that cultivating resiliency in the face of change is key to making changes positively and effectively.
In his talk, Jim describes that when capability is greater than challenge, people get bored. When challenge is greater than capability, people get overwhelmed and stressed. The ideal is to maintain an equal balance between capability and challenge. Then people can weather the myriad of feelings they have as they go through change. If people do not develop resiliency, they can get thrown by some of the negative thoughts, feelings and struggles that are a natural part of the change process.
People feel in control when expectations match experiences. Developing personal resilience helps people maintain a sense of control. Jim describes it as the ability to absorb high levels of disruptive change while displaying minimal dysfunctional behavior. Those who are resilient maintain their equilibrium, high productivity, good health, success and rebound well from setbacks. Resilient people are:
Jim Canada ends his presentation by stressing the importance of creating a strong workplace culture in which your people are able to find a new normal occurs easily because you effectively communicate the positive consequences of change and they remain inspired to stay the course through discomfort. The bottom line: learn how to be resilient and promote resilience so you and your business can move ahead successfully.
To learn more about how to enact positive changes in your workplace culture, contact Jim Canada at: http://www.alliancetechnologiesllc.com/contact-us
Want control, consistency, organization and efficiency? This presentation guides you to see how systems help you achieve abundance, freedom, work/life balance and respect.
Content Marketing expert Tom Ruwitch opens his presentation describing how he applied a social intelligence system that enabled him and his team at MarketVolt to consider a variety of approaches people use for solving problems. They did this with and for their team so that values and ways of operating were not inadvertently violated or neglected. By adopting this human systems process, his organization’s meetings become shorter, easier and of higher quality. He uses this story to springboard into other examples of how he has and continues to use systems to ensure his company and the clients they serve are effective in running, growing and living well in their business too. In this presentation, Tom describes the following examples of a:
RUN System: He shares how he used new systems to improve his customer retention ratings and how facing any and every business problem with a system-based solution inspires innovation.
GROW System: He shares how he used a systems approach to integrate lead generation processes from initial contact through the entire funnel cycle so he and his employees could get prospects into their database and stay on top of who is doing what and how.
LIVE WELL System: He shares a system he created and employs that enables him to personally work productively, in a healthy and balanced manner, and get more done.
Tom Ruwitch cites his many successes to his use of systems and recommends that no matter what systems chosen, it matters that each business owner determine them for how to RUN, GROW and LIVE WELL in the business. He recommends everyone to get support; the people and information to help you create a standardization approach in all areas of your life and work.
For support in defining your content marketing plans and sustainable systems within them, contact expert Tom Ruwich at MarketVolt by phone 314-993-3732 ext 18, by email at email@example.com or visit his website www.marketvolt.com
E4e experts are known for helping each other so no one is flying alone. Steve Smart, marketing strategist needed a plan and someone to support him through the process of eating healthy and losing weight. In this presentation, the following seven principles were employed to help Steve meet his health goals. Along with Steve, wellness expert Dr. Dan Fazio used the same to grow his business exponentially. For these and any other problems you may be facing consider each:
Dan helped Steve lose 49 pounds by helping him to eat an anti-inflammatory diet. Both provided specific details about the approach, timeline and support mechanisms that brought about this positive outcome.
What their successful teamwork proved is that working in partnership and friendship, in which emotional, intellectual and physical support is plentiful, brings about positive results. In this presentation, both Dan and Steve share personal, true stories in which they achieve phenomenal results using the 7 principles provided as guidelines for effective problem-solving in life and work.
Steve Smart provides excellence in marketing strategy. Do you need a new strategy to ensure success from your marketing efforts? If so, reach out to Steve Smart at firstname.lastname@example.org. He specializes in helping clients create systems that work best, in order to help them meet and exceed their business goals. Dr. Dan Fazio is a wellness expert specializing in the proactive creation of health and the prevention of disease. To get direct support from Dr. Fazio, email him at email@example.com or call him at 636-227-4442.
Work and Life balance can be a messy experience because the demands and desires in both work and life are always vying for dominance. The struggle can be challenging and requires our attention. Productivity expert Cathy Sexton shares personal and professional examples of what entrepreneurs experience as we learn to build and grow our businesses, including the roles stress and balance play in the quality of our relationships, energy and outcomes.
When stress hits us, we may fail to have a personal or family life in which the needs of others and ourselves are being considered mindfully or managed well. Cathy Sexton describes the role our mind and actions play on our wellbeing. In this presentation, she provides information on:
Cathy helped each person in the audience to identify their highest values and recognize the importance of living from them. During this presentation, she opens up her heart in a vulnerable manner to express the importance of paying attention to what matters most so your decision-making is easy to live with and is informing your choices.
Cathy Sexton is founder and CEO of The Productivity Experts and a nationally recognized expert and speaker on productivity. To gain further support and information, contact Cathy at firstname.lastname@example.org or 314 267-3969
Human Systems expert Judy Ryan opens her presentation talking with the audience about their pre-work, asking if they did or did not do it and more importantly, why? She focuses on the internal and external communication that each had prior to the program, asking each person to consider if what mindset they decided from when making a decision about this request and others. She points out how each party in an exchange has a part to play in the success of the interaction. She focuses on:
In this presentation, Judy Ryan provides participants with many hands-on tools that empower each to take full responsibility for conversations, and ensure they are likely to lead to accountable agreements.
Judy Ryan is owner of LifeWork Systems. She is an award-winning trainer, consultant, coach, keynote presenter and columnist. Judy works with progressive thought leaders, executives and change agents who want to succeed by building healthy culture and highly productive teams. If you would like Judy’s support, you can reach her at Judy@LifeWorkSystems.com, visit her website www.LifeWorkSystems.com or call her at 314.239.4727
Dr. Dan Fazio, a specialist in chiropractic methods, acupuncture and functional medicine, provides a thorough, yet succinct review of the physical, chemical, environmental, mental and emotional stressors that must be addressed effectively for optimal health. While he acknowledges positive stress, he focuses most of his presentation on five key factors that keep stress in check. Some of the points cover:
Dan Fazio is extremely well-read and a life-long learner, sharing how to maintain the most current information on health, stress and the many ways to enjoy wellbeing. Dr. Dan Fazio is a chiropractor and wellness expert, specializing in the proactive creation of health and prevention of disease. To get direct support from Dr. Fazio, email him at email@example.com or call him at 636-227-4442
Brian Lunt is a pragmatic and expert financial planner and bank VP who helps people map their unique financial values and lifestyle to a plan that works with their highest and most positive energy and priorities, not against them or in neglect of them. Here are key points to his talk.
Brian Lunt understands that the approach and resulting choices about money stem from either vision or fear. He shares his priority to help people tap into their innate wisdom and best choices so they can feel excited about their financial strategies and make a plan they will want to stick with to achieve their highest vision.
To get help in setting up an exciting plan and a positive relationship with money, contact Brian at firstname.lastname@example.org
Dale Furtwengler is an innovative and insightful thinker who delights in discovering buried treasure at every turn, simply because he refuses to be limited by conventional ways of thinking that often blind many to opportunities right in front of them. The focus of his presentation is on how to use a contrarian mindset to think innovative thoughts in order to attract customers rather than continue chasing after them.
Dale establishes the importance of positioning yourself as a person who regularly offers a fresh, new perspective so you are perceived as an expert and are credited with wisdom, which then brings opportunities your way. He stresses contrarian mental disciplines such as:
Dale Furtwengler is author of the internationally acclaimed book, Pricing for Profit. His company, Furtwengler & Associates, Inc., helps companies get higher prices regardless of what their competitors or the economy are doing. For more pricing/branding/marketing/sales tips visit his website, PricingForProfitBook.com
Chiropractor, acupuncturist and naturopath Dr. Dan Fazio specializes in nutrition as a large part of his successful practice. He believes in supporting physical health and wellness through a variety of preventative strategies, including clear, specific, practical tips for how to enjoy holiday and event eating without doing harm to the body. In this program, he covers:
Dr. Dan Fazio is a wellness expert specializing in the proactive creation of health and prevention of disease. To get direct support from Dr. Fazio, email him at email@example.com or call him at 636-227-4442
With wit and intelligence, Dr. Dan Fazio provides in-depth understanding of how our body has built-in mechanisms that support our optimal health. This video on our immune systems creates awareness concerning what we can do to be in harmony with and support of our body’s highest functioning. In this presentation, he covers the:
Dr. Dan Fazio is a chiropractor and wellness expert specializing in the proactive creation of health and prevention of disease. To get direct support from Dr. Fazio, email him at firstname.lastname@example.org or call him at 636-227-4442
No man is an island. No business is either. It’s helpful to learn from those who are a few steps ahead or are walking stably beside you. Now is the time to accelerate progress through networking and collaboration in order to enjoy exponential improvements and growth. Our panel of fourteen experts offers invaluable insights into the question: What are three priority skills needed to be a successful entrepreneur?
From our Experts:
1. Persistence... Entrepreneurs are bound to fail from time to time in their journeys. You can't quit the first time you fail.
2. Interpersonal skills... You must work well with others if you want to be a successful entrepreneur. Working alone in a garage is a mythical image.
3. A willingness to let go and delegate… You can't do it all yourself. Build a team. Establish structure. Don't try to juggle it all.
1. Fire in your belly to do something different, better and take-on risk
2. A picture of success, vision and desired outcomes with leaky boundaries
3. Surround self with people smarter and different than you who support your picture of success
1. The ability to sell
2. The ability to delegate
3. The ability to learn from failure (or, better yet, the failures of others)
1. The ability to lead with vision: The ability to see, define and rally others to a future state is critical for long-term success.
2. The ability to incorporate the right talent: No one can do it all on their own. It becomes critical to recognize that fact, develop a high performing team and delegate well.
3. The ability to manage change: With a growing business, change is happening all over. Within the organization, within the industry and in the business world in general. Being able to manage change and lead the organization in the midst of it is important.
Along with personal traits such as perseverance, self-motivation, and focus, I think having the following skills is vitally important to an entrepreneur's success:
1. First, you must have a marketable service or product. If you don't, then you have nothing to sell and no platform for becoming an entrepreneur.
2. Second, you need to have vision. When you are starting out, take advantage of your ability to adjust to demands and trends quickly; always have an eye for opportunity.
3. Lastly, and I believe most importantly, you need to be able to grow your personal network. Entrepreneurs sell solutions and the more people you know the more people you can potentially help. Your worth as an entrepreneur is directly tied with how well and how many people you can help. Creating an ever-growing network of people allows for more relationships and more opportunities for you to solve problems.
These are just a few of the Partner responses.
Dream Champion, Queen of Possibilities, and Innovator Karen Hoffman has always looked for systems to help people discover possibilities not seen at first glance by the majority of people. She encourages viewers by her magical stories about:
As founder of Gateway to Dreams, Karen Hoffman continues helping people to achieve rapid fulfillment of their dreams through relationships and collaboration. She provides the space, the connections, the ideas, the enthusiasm and proven processes for making positive dreams happen. You can contact Karen at Karen@cityofexperts.com
So you've decided to start a graphic design project. Great! But how do you get from your initial idea to a finished, printed product? If you decide to forgo the recommendation of seeking professional graphic design help, you are probably in the market for some software. It doesn't matter if you are trying to create a logo, banner, sign, or brochure, it can be difficult getting from the project's conception to the final product if you lack the proper tools.
SEO and website development expert Will Hanke speaks from experience and provides valuable information outlining today’s hottest graphic design programs, some known and some more obscure.
Adobe Creative Suite is probably the most known graphic design package, and it contains a lot of different software programs including InDesign, Illustrator, and Photoshop. If you buy the entire suite, it will set you back a pretty penny. You do, however, have the option of buying individual components of the package. The following are some of the more popular components to help you with your project.
Adobe InDesign is great for making flyers and posters. It even has tools to help guide you in making your own brochure. The tools allow you to do a little bit of image editing, and help you layout your brochure and put text on top of an image.
Adobe Illustrator, on the other hand, is simply a program allowing you to create or edit your own image files. It is essentially a blank canvas and provides you with tools to sketch, paint, erase, and scale a picture. If you are a talented digital artist, then this is a must have for your graphic design projects.
Lastly, I imagine everyone knows about Photoshop. The popularity of this program is so immense it has become a verb in the English language! Still, this photo manipulation software is considered an industry standard by many, and can help you touch up photos before you send them to be printed.
Corel is a software company and a competitor to Adobe products. Corel Draw even has handy brochure templates, and can really save you time. Some people prefer Adobe over Corel or vice versa, but the important thing to remember about Corel products is they are comparable software products and provide almost the exact same features at a fraction of the price.
GIMP, or GNU Image Manipulation Program, is part of the open source GNU project and a great piece of software. Software under the GNU license is free to use, copy, distribute and you could even change the source code. It's incredible because it competes with top image manipulation and graphic design programs, yet is still completely free! However, unless you already know how to use similar tools, you are going to need to learn a lot before you can use this program very well. Its learning curve is relatively steep.
These known and not-so-well known programs are great aids for many graphic design projects. Fair warning: they have a tough learning curve to them and some have a hefty price tag, so if you feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed creating your own logo or design, seek the help of acustom printing company. On the other hand, if you absolutely need to do the design portion yourself, these programs will aid you in making your idea a reality!
SEO expert Will Hanke is a Jack-of-all-trades and understands a spectrum of tools available to do a variety of tasks, including those related to graphic design. He informs readers by describing the relative strengths and weaknesses of each product outlined. For SEO and website development tips, subscribe to his newsletter or check out his blog.
Karen Hoffman, entrepreneur, business owner and Chief Possibilities Officer for Gateway to Dreams is sometimes referred to as the Kevin Bacon of St. Louis. Even as a child and young person, connecting was a common practice she engaged in with passion, naturally and often. These days, Karen fully utilizes technology to help her track and maintain information on those she’s met so her relationships remain fresh, real and authentic. She asserts that each of us can develop great skill in connecting with others.
Karen draws upon her copious experience as a seasoned connector and lover of people as well as industry data to express the following tips and strategies for making positive, lasting and mutually supportive connections:
Karen Hoffman is founder of Gateway to Dreams, an organization designed to connect and promote people so they can live their dreams and provide their valuable services to the world. Call her today at 314.503.6376 or email her at Karen@cityofexperts.com
Serving customers and setting an intention to create a satisfying experience with them engenders ongoing loyalty and often-extraordinary results. Being grateful and mindful about your customers and attentive to their needs, translates into strong relationships that are mutually positive and supportive. Some likely results: your customers develop business for you. They like you, they trust you, they continue to buy from you and they refer others to you. Most important of all, developing caring habits that keep them happy ultimately make you happy too. Benefit from the experience of our experts who offer you a range of ideas to try out for your benefit and those you serve.
From our Experts:
I like to EMAIL out new and interesting trends I feel would benefit some of my current and past clients. This is a very positive way to help them and help me keep in touch with them. I think they really appreciate the way I send them specific information tidbits they can use in their business.
I send an email every week with a productivity tip of the week that brings value and is quick and easy to read. I get a lot of positive feedback.
I like to give more than my customers are expecting. When opportunities arise to support them in unconventional ways they don’t anticipate, more than a working relationship develops. We also become friends.
Many years ago I had a colleague who said, "Do the best you can and do a little bit more.”
My goal in working with my clients is to make them feel special...like they are my only client in the world. I also want them to trust me deeply.
Doing what I say I'm going to do, when I say I'm going to do it, is important to me. They don't care what I know unless they know that I care.
These are just a few of the partner responses.
For further information, support and advice from thirty experts on this topic and many others, become a member of the e4e community by visiting our website at www.e4ecommunity.com
Have you ever heard the saying, “Slow down, stop and smell the roses? “ This was something I always heard from my mother-in-law at every visit for over twenty years. I always thought, “What does she know? She should mind her own business. I’m doing the best I can.” Holly and I owned three 24-hour restaurants. Our children were all active in school and sports. Holly and I wanted to do our best for them. Many would say our family was living the American dream. However, there never seem to be enough hours in the day.
It was the fall of 1997 when I received a call from the basketball coach. It was the first day of basketball practice and Landon didn’t show. Both Landon and Chad had been playing organized basketball from the third grade. Chad was a junior and he made it to practice. The coach wanted to know why Landon hadn’t arrived. I said I didn’t know. But I would ask when he came home. When Landon came home, I asked why he didn’t show for practice. He said, “Dad do you think I’ll ever play professional basketball? I said, “No.” Landon said, “Do you think I would ever get a college scholarship?” I said, “I doubt it, but maybe.” Landon then said, “Dad, I would rather go deer hunting.” What could I say? I could tell he had given this a lot of thought. I reluctantly said, “OK.” I’m so thankful I respected my son’s wishes. On December 17, he died in a car accident.
Now fast-forward to Thanksgiving Day, 1998. I started work early so I could arrive home early to have our family Thanksgiving dinner at 4 o’clock. We gave thanks and ate our meal. Then, I retired to my chair and fell asleep. When I woke up two hours later I asked Holly, “Where did everyone go?” She said, “They left. You were sleeping.” This was my “aha” moment. I did not want to be remembered as always being asleep in my chair. I realized things had to change. I had been using my margin (how I use time) just to get by. The only way to improve my margin would to get rid of the clutter (spending time on things that don’t matter) in my life. I am thankful for the margin I now have and would like to share the benefits of “slowing down and stopping to smell the roses.”
“Four benefits of putting margin in your life”
I am thankful to my mother in law Margaret Hillstrand (8/11/1920-8/29/2012) and her persistence in helping me to “Slow down and stop to smell the roses”.
Psalm 90:12 (The Living Bible) Teach us to number our days and recognize how few they are; help us to spend them as we should.
Larry Lukens is a successful businessman and spiritual expert in the e4e community who uses his life experience to bring comfort and counsel. To contact Larry, call him at 740.294.9740 or write him at email@example.com.
Glossophobia is the Fear of Public Speaking. It is derived from a Greek word, glosso, meaning tongue, and Phobus, fear. Up to seventy-five percent of us have it, to one degree or another. It holds many people back from reaching their potential.
It is a fear worth confronting and overcoming because, as my mantra says: “Speaking Opportunities are Business, Career, and Leadership Opportunities.”
People who take and make Speaking Opportunities:
The first step to lessening the fear is to understand why so many people dread giving public speaking and delivering presentations.
My first response is, “Why not!”
Think about it. Most of our conversations are one-on-one. Many of those are on a phone where we don’t see the person we’re communicating with. Increasingly, we communicate by texting or email. Those mediums eliminate seeing and hearing the other person.
It’s reasonable to assume standing in front of, and speaking with twenty, forty, or one hundred sets of eyeballs, is ‘out of our comfort zone.’ That’s a big reason we’re uncomfortable giving a presentation.
That un-comfortableness will, if presenting on a regular basis, ultimately lessen. (You did learn to eventually not fall off your bicycle, didn’t you?)
There are several very real reasons to have a Fear of Public Speaking.
Why would anyone think they could “wing” it when delivering a presentation?
Here’s my response: Everyone has experiences and knowledge people would love to hear about and could benefit from. The problem is often we are ‘too close to ourselves’ and ‘looking in the mirror’ for answers. As a good friend once told me, “We don’t know what we know!”
One of the best ways to find, ‘What to talk about’ is to work with at least one other person.
When I coach clients, “I Listen and Ask Questions, so they hear themselves!” You can do the same when working with others to discover ‘What to talk about.’
Ask questions like:
From now on. . . No more, “Nothing to talk about,” excuses for not giving a presentation!
A great way to get started on your presentation is to use a Speaker’s Template.
It’s available FREE here: http://www.nosweatpublicspeaking.com/go/freespeakerstemplate/
Fred E. Miller is a local Speaker, Author, and Presentation Coach. The title of his first book is, “NO SWEAT Public Speaking!” Businesses, Individuals, and organizations hire him to improve their public speaking and presentation skills. For more information, contact Fred at:
As a child deeply in love with nature, living on the edge of a park, and the fifth of six children, I knew a lot about chaos, the beautiful, free, creative and exhilarating kind. Starting out free to explore from infancy, school at age five felt like bitter confinement and at times crushing domination, and was the first time I was acutely aware of the down-side to our civilization process. As a result, I have always been drawn to unorthodox concepts of how people might form community, develop into good, contributing, caring citizens who are empowered to be victorious in their lives. In the last 30 years I have turned that awareness into an obsession (and a company), leading to questions that have since liberated my life and the lives of others.
It’s clear our current organizational structures are not working well. News headlines make us all too aware of the meaning of the term dysfunctional within schools, families, businesses and institutions. Schools struggle to effectively educate, many businesses, marriages and families are in a state of crisis. And then there’s the current state of health care, the economy, welfare, our judicial systems, the environment, and governments, to name a few.
Additionally, a requirement for mutual cooperation is essential as we expand our increasingly technological and global community. We are evolving at an accelerated pace which creates greater stress and a pressing need to be more inter-dependent and streamlined in our evolution. What once took years and even decades to create now takes only months or days and our outdated organizational systems can’t keep up with our present or future. What’s the answer?
Recently, in studying a variety of organizational models, I was delighted to discover a human system that is synonymous with the work of my company LifeWork Systems. The model is called a chaord, derived from a combination of the words chaos and order. In a chaord, all the best within human beings and all manner of systems are honored and focused towards what is both most meaningful and effective.
Leading scientists from many disciplines have recently discovered that life itself thrives on the edge of chaos with just enough order to give it patterns we have taken for granted and assumed developed in a linear, plodding manner. It’s just not true. Much of what exists in nature formed in both a complex and simultaneous way. In other words, a variety of systems acting independently worked in harmony to rapidly collaborate and create what could not otherwise occur. Nature literally explodes with creativity and cooperation. What’s key is that each element involved in any healthy system not be confused nor impeded in living to their distinct purpose, values and vision.
A chaord is similar to this beautiful discovery in nature; when people share power, are equipped to co-create change, and independently self-govern, then everyone can harmoniously blend available chaos with order for rapid, effective change. In ordered chaos, each person is first and foremost purpose-oriented, focused on individual and group purpose, values and visions. Next, everyone is organized to expediently harness the creativity, gifts, initiative and collective talents available in service to that purpose or vision. Ordered chaos is to vision what a bow and arrow is to a target. Control is released so the arrow can literally fly to the target. This is the path from victim to victor.
What does this mean specifically? Organizations operating as a chaord function by a set of principles in which power is shared, knowledge and initiative are distributed at all levels and self-governing, socially and emotionally intelligent individuals and teams work independently to accomplish their goals with faith in each other to deliver their part. Imagine homes, educational institutions, community organizations and businesses in which adults and children learn to share decision-making, governing, and whole tasks are delegated to individuals and teams independently and yet, interdependently.
In this system internal motivation, purpose, vision and self-management are top priorities that replace traditional command and control, linear top-down managing so that joyful participation from passion and purpose reign. I have successfully created this very system in my own family and in client sites, including businesses, non-profit organizations, churches and schools.
During the first half of the 21st century, it was the practice of parents to shape the minds and hearts and lives of their children and to a large extent this is still a worthy role. At that time however, this was out of balance. There was something crucial usually missing in the formula for influencing children’s lives. Too much emphasis was focused on the shaping of the child and not enough on the child’s individual internal motivation, inductive reasoning and discovery and development of their unique purpose, values and vision for their life. They were not developed into leaders and proactive participants as part of their rearing. The result: Many adults turn into people who are out of touch with their ability to make choices from internal motivation and instead feel like “victims” to the whims and preferences of others. Their internal roadmap is buried and their power atrophied.
A result from my experience of my childhood and the well-intentioned, control-driven attempts by my parents, other adults, and educators, to make me a good citizen, was an unbalanced need to do what my parents and other authorities wanted from a sense of fear and disempowerment. I have come to realize many others experience the same. Maybe that’s why Brene Brown, renounced expert researcher on Shame and Vulnerability states,
"We are the most over-weight, over-medicated, in-debt, addicted cohorts in the history of the world."
The emphasis on shaping human beings from the outside in, is costing us more than we could ever imagine and at the root of co-dependency, shame, repression, suppression, addiction and many neuroses. It is at the root of victim consciousness. When parents raise children this way and educators teach students this way and managers manage employees this way, there grows a disconnection between the one leading and the one being led, and a disconnect within each person.
During that era and today, the mainstream methods for how to lead others is still a source of much dysfunction. When we use a control-based approach for leading others, this is a form of over-protecting, pampering and spoiling. I’m not referring here to spoiling others with too many material goods but rather, with taking too much responsibility for the ideas, happiness, behavior, choices and results of those they lead.
In the words of psychologist Alfred Adler (father of individual psychology), “people often make the mistake of taking too much responsibility for other’s achievements and too much blame for their mistakes. They forget the person is always observing, interpreting and deciding for him or herself.” When we leave out the purposes and subjectivity of the individual, and don’t guide others in the wise use of their power, we are teaching others to be less responsible. What we protect we make weak and we should never do for others anything they are capable of doing for themselves.
The job of a good leader is to help a person become able to respond (responsible) in their life; to help them by transferring responsibility to them in such a manner that they discover their own high purpose and how to live it. Then they can do the same for others. It’s been my life’s work, first with my family, then in over 70 schools and now with many business and community organizations, to provide the missing tools and information that allows leaders to improve success in others and bring out the best already residing in those they lead.
We live in exciting times with tremendous opportunity to expand into the amazing, capable, creative human beings we are and to have fun alone and with others. A chaordic model is exciting because it provides meaningful uncertainties, risks, challenges and opportunities to develop leaders who contribute in ways that cannot be found in traditional models. Vision, with action, leads to infinite possibilities. It’s time to buckle up, and go for the ride of our lives. We are designed by nature itself to function within organized chaos on purpose when we are given the appropriate training and support for how to do so! We are meant to be victors, not victims!
Judy Ryan is Owner of LifeWork Systems and a human systems expert. Executives, community leaders and educators hire Judy and her company because they want the advantages of a healthy workplace. To contact her, you can call her at 314.239.4727, by firstname.lastname@example.org or on her website www.lifeworksystems.com
Stephen Hager, expert in practical neuroscience, shares techniques and processes for getting and staying in top mental, physical and emotional condition needed for performance excellence. He shares the following information so viewers can:
Stephen Hager is owner of Neuidentity and you can reach him by visiting his website: www.neuidentity.com
This video on anti-inflammatory eating creates awareness concerning how a poor diet can create harmful systemic inflammation in our bodies. Inflammation then leads to unhealthy reactions in our bodies that we should avoid.
An anti-inflammatory diet is one primarily comprised of green, red and orange vegetables, healthy nuts such as almonds and walnuts and organic, lean, grass-fed (pasture-raised) meats.
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What is brain strength and why is this important to entrepreneurs? Practical Neuroscientist Stephen Hager talks about the importance of understanding the unique make up of each person for how they like to learn, think, communicate, solve problems, make decisions and work productively.
Stephen discusses neuro-diversity starting with how people process information (sensory), including the strengths and weaknesses of each modality and our cognitive function (how we focus on and use information). He describes the importance of knowing our primary and secondary sensory styles and equally our blind spots, which indicates the style that’s our weakest and least favored. The three sensory styles and their prevalence in our world are:
Our cognitive preferences are:
Most people don’t know their sensory and cognitive strengths and weaknesses. When they do, they can leverage this information to be effective. Stephen Hager focuses on the significance of these styles for entrepreneurs and their connection to social and financial success. For more information, check out Stephen’s video article outlining next steps, visit his website: neuidentity.com or call him at 618-977-5258.