Les Landes presents "Juggling your business and life balance?".
Les Landes presents "Juggling your business and life balance?".
In this presentation called, "I Just Want To Be Happy", e4e partner Gail Moran discusses the title phrase. An often heard phrase, but what does it mean? More importantly, what does it mean to you? And how often are you experiencing happiness?
In this presentation called, "Applying Customer Service To Everyday Living?", e4e partner Ann Prenatt asks: What can we learn by exploring customer service experiences? Our own and those we create for our customers? How can we apply that to other aspects of our lives?
In this presentation called, "Juggling Act", e4e partner Cathy Sexton will tell you how to discover the secrets to keeping all the balls in the air without becoming a workaholic. Running your business doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice the joy of everyday living.
In this episode of "Dr. Dan's 5 minutes to Wellness," e4e partner Dr. Dan Fazio gives the audience 5 things that can be done to reduce stress, especially around the holiday season.
In this presentation called, "Barking Up the Wrong Success Tree," e4e partner Cynthia Correll talks about slowing down and taking care of yourself. She speaks about her experience getting healthy and how putting her health first benefits her business.
In this presentation called, "Non-Negotiables," e4e partner Cathy Sexton explains how we can set non-negotiable rules for our personal and professional lives. She tells us how we use our beliefs and values to make these rules that we can live by.
In this presentation called "Eliminating the Guilt & Taking Time for Me," e4e partner Lori St. Clair leads a discussion about the guilt that arises from an unhealthy life/work balance. She explains where stress comes from, how it grows and offers advice for maintaining your mental health as a busy professional.
In this presentation called "5 Points of Wellness," e4e partner Dr. Dan Fazio explains some of the core principles of leading a healthy and fulfilling life. He distills the concepts into five key points and weighs the importance each.
In this presentation, culture change expert Judy Ryan presents on the transformation process for fostering free and contributing human beings. She offers key points that may challenge the status quo and offer a new perspective for supporting greatness in self and others.
Things are rarely as bad as they seem.
More importantly, sometimes the win is in the push.
Dr. Dan Fazio is a wellness chiropractor and expert in helping people holistically improve their quality of life. He puts fun back into functional and longevity medicine, exploring the following points:
Dr. Fazio is a warm-hearted, funny and intelligent health professional, passionate about helping people in connected, supportive and collaborative ways.
Dale Furtwengler, author and pricing strategist focuses on a life-changing topic to enable all the viewers to experience extraordinary success by learning how to stay connected to the universe whether you focus on this from a scientific, psychological or spiritual viewpoint. He provides tips so each participant can live more often from a place of joy and ease.
Have you ever heard the saying, “Slow down, stop and smell the roses? “ This was something I always heard from my mother-in-law at every visit for over twenty years. I always thought, “What does she know? She should mind her own business. I’m doing the best I can.” Holly and I owned three 24-hour restaurants. Our children were all active in school and sports. Holly and I wanted to do our best for them. Many would say our family was living the American dream. However, there never seem to be enough hours in the day.
It was the fall of 1997 when I received a call from the basketball coach. It was the first day of basketball practice and Landon didn’t show. Both Landon and Chad had been playing organized basketball from the third grade. Chad was a junior and he made it to practice. The coach wanted to know why Landon hadn’t arrived. I said I didn’t know. But I would ask when he came home. When Landon came home, I asked why he didn’t show for practice. He said, “Dad do you think I’ll ever play professional basketball? I said, “No.” Landon said, “Do you think I would ever get a college scholarship?” I said, “I doubt it, but maybe.” Landon then said, “Dad, I would rather go deer hunting.” What could I say? I could tell he had given this a lot of thought. I reluctantly said, “OK.” I’m so thankful I respected my son’s wishes. On December 17, he died in a car accident.
Now fast-forward to Thanksgiving Day, 1998. I started work early so I could arrive home early to have our family Thanksgiving dinner at 4 o’clock. We gave thanks and ate our meal. Then, I retired to my chair and fell asleep. When I woke up two hours later I asked Holly, “Where did everyone go?” She said, “They left. You were sleeping.” This was my “aha” moment. I did not want to be remembered as always being asleep in my chair. I realized things had to change. I had been using my margin (how I use time) just to get by. The only way to improve my margin would to get rid of the clutter (spending time on things that don’t matter) in my life. I am thankful for the margin I now have and would like to share the benefits of “slowing down and stopping to smell the roses.”
“Four benefits of putting margin in your life”
I am thankful to my mother in law Margaret Hillstrand (8/11/1920-8/29/2012) and her persistence in helping me to “Slow down and stop to smell the roses”.
Psalm 90:12 (The Living Bible) Teach us to number our days and recognize how few they are; help us to spend them as we should.
Larry Lukens is a successful businessman and spiritual expert in the e4e community who uses his life experience to bring comfort and counsel. To contact Larry, call him at 740.294.9740 or write him at firstname.lastname@example.org.
As a child deeply in love with nature, living on the edge of a park, and the fifth of six children, I knew a lot about chaos, the beautiful, free, creative and exhilarating kind. Starting out free to explore from infancy, school at age five felt like bitter confinement and at times crushing domination, and was the first time I was acutely aware of the down-side to our civilization process. As a result, I have always been drawn to unorthodox concepts of how people might form community, develop into good, contributing, caring citizens who are empowered to be victorious in their lives. In the last 30 years I have turned that awareness into an obsession (and a company), leading to questions that have since liberated my life and the lives of others.
It’s clear our current organizational structures are not working well. News headlines make us all too aware of the meaning of the term dysfunctional within schools, families, businesses and institutions. Schools struggle to effectively educate, many businesses, marriages and families are in a state of crisis. And then there’s the current state of health care, the economy, welfare, our judicial systems, the environment, and governments, to name a few.
Additionally, a requirement for mutual cooperation is essential as we expand our increasingly technological and global community. We are evolving at an accelerated pace which creates greater stress and a pressing need to be more inter-dependent and streamlined in our evolution. What once took years and even decades to create now takes only months or days and our outdated organizational systems can’t keep up with our present or future. What’s the answer?
Recently, in studying a variety of organizational models, I was delighted to discover a human system that is synonymous with the work of my company LifeWork Systems. The model is called a chaord, derived from a combination of the words chaos and order. In a chaord, all the best within human beings and all manner of systems are honored and focused towards what is both most meaningful and effective.
Leading scientists from many disciplines have recently discovered that life itself thrives on the edge of chaos with just enough order to give it patterns we have taken for granted and assumed developed in a linear, plodding manner. It’s just not true. Much of what exists in nature formed in both a complex and simultaneous way. In other words, a variety of systems acting independently worked in harmony to rapidly collaborate and create what could not otherwise occur. Nature literally explodes with creativity and cooperation. What’s key is that each element involved in any healthy system not be confused nor impeded in living to their distinct purpose, values and vision.
A chaord is similar to this beautiful discovery in nature; when people share power, are equipped to co-create change, and independently self-govern, then everyone can harmoniously blend available chaos with order for rapid, effective change. In ordered chaos, each person is first and foremost purpose-oriented, focused on individual and group purpose, values and visions. Next, everyone is organized to expediently harness the creativity, gifts, initiative and collective talents available in service to that purpose or vision. Ordered chaos is to vision what a bow and arrow is to a target. Control is released so the arrow can literally fly to the target. This is the path from victim to victor.
What does this mean specifically? Organizations operating as a chaord function by a set of principles in which power is shared, knowledge and initiative are distributed at all levels and self-governing, socially and emotionally intelligent individuals and teams work independently to accomplish their goals with faith in each other to deliver their part. Imagine homes, educational institutions, community organizations and businesses in which adults and children learn to share decision-making, governing, and whole tasks are delegated to individuals and teams independently and yet, interdependently.
In this system internal motivation, purpose, vision and self-management are top priorities that replace traditional command and control, linear top-down managing so that joyful participation from passion and purpose reign. I have successfully created this very system in my own family and in client sites, including businesses, non-profit organizations, churches and schools.
During the first half of the 21st century, it was the practice of parents to shape the minds and hearts and lives of their children and to a large extent this is still a worthy role. At that time however, this was out of balance. There was something crucial usually missing in the formula for influencing children’s lives. Too much emphasis was focused on the shaping of the child and not enough on the child’s individual internal motivation, inductive reasoning and discovery and development of their unique purpose, values and vision for their life. They were not developed into leaders and proactive participants as part of their rearing. The result: Many adults turn into people who are out of touch with their ability to make choices from internal motivation and instead feel like “victims” to the whims and preferences of others. Their internal roadmap is buried and their power atrophied.
A result from my experience of my childhood and the well-intentioned, control-driven attempts by my parents, other adults, and educators, to make me a good citizen, was an unbalanced need to do what my parents and other authorities wanted from a sense of fear and disempowerment. I have come to realize many others experience the same. Maybe that’s why Brene Brown, renounced expert researcher on Shame and Vulnerability states,
"We are the most over-weight, over-medicated, in-debt, addicted cohorts in the history of the world."
The emphasis on shaping human beings from the outside in, is costing us more than we could ever imagine and at the root of co-dependency, shame, repression, suppression, addiction and many neuroses. It is at the root of victim consciousness. When parents raise children this way and educators teach students this way and managers manage employees this way, there grows a disconnection between the one leading and the one being led, and a disconnect within each person.
During that era and today, the mainstream methods for how to lead others is still a source of much dysfunction. When we use a control-based approach for leading others, this is a form of over-protecting, pampering and spoiling. I’m not referring here to spoiling others with too many material goods but rather, with taking too much responsibility for the ideas, happiness, behavior, choices and results of those they lead.
In the words of psychologist Alfred Adler (father of individual psychology), “people often make the mistake of taking too much responsibility for other’s achievements and too much blame for their mistakes. They forget the person is always observing, interpreting and deciding for him or herself.” When we leave out the purposes and subjectivity of the individual, and don’t guide others in the wise use of their power, we are teaching others to be less responsible. What we protect we make weak and we should never do for others anything they are capable of doing for themselves.
The job of a good leader is to help a person become able to respond (responsible) in their life; to help them by transferring responsibility to them in such a manner that they discover their own high purpose and how to live it. Then they can do the same for others. It’s been my life’s work, first with my family, then in over 70 schools and now with many business and community organizations, to provide the missing tools and information that allows leaders to improve success in others and bring out the best already residing in those they lead.
We live in exciting times with tremendous opportunity to expand into the amazing, capable, creative human beings we are and to have fun alone and with others. A chaordic model is exciting because it provides meaningful uncertainties, risks, challenges and opportunities to develop leaders who contribute in ways that cannot be found in traditional models. Vision, with action, leads to infinite possibilities. It’s time to buckle up, and go for the ride of our lives. We are designed by nature itself to function within organized chaos on purpose when we are given the appropriate training and support for how to do so! We are meant to be victors, not victims!
Judy Ryan is Owner of LifeWork Systems and a human systems expert. Executives, community leaders and educators hire Judy and her company because they want the advantages of a healthy workplace. To contact her, you can call her at 314.239.4727, by email@example.com or on her website www.lifeworksystems.com
Specializing in spiritual growth, successful business owner and leader Larry Lukens provides practical tips for overcoming adversity and using it to grow. He shares the following wisdom to help us:
Larry Lukens is a successful businessman who uses his life experience to bring comfort and counsel. To contact Larry, call him at 740.294.9740 or write him at firstname.lastname@example.org.
“Everything in our lives, all of our pursuits, should be founded upon our answer to the question why—why we exist, followed by why we do what we do.” – Todd Gongwer- Lead…..For God’s Sake
Why do we go on vacations? I would go on vacations to enjoy life for a while, to relax, create memories and, be with my family. It was important for Holly and I to create memories of family vacations we had as children. We would then decide for the time and money we had, where could we go. We would determine the must see sights. We always wanted to get the most out of vacation. When our vacation was over, we did not want to regret not seeing or doing something. We wanted to get the most out of our one-week together.
Our life is like our vacations in several ways. I would like to share two. The first is when it’s over will you have regrets for something you wished you would’ve done? The second is, sometimes vacations don’t go as they are planned and sometimes our lives do not go as we planned.
What does the Bible say about your life not going as you planned?
Trials and Temptations-James 1:2-8
2 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. 6 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7 That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. 8 Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.
As stated above we should pray with all of our heart for wisdom or we should not expect to receive it.
I like the Serenity Prayer.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
We all have the same amount of time every day. We choose to invest it, or waste it.
lm 90:12 - Teach us to make the most of our time, so that we may grow in wisdom. Until I prioritized what’s important to me- I felt stressed, not blessed. Pray for wisdom to understand why we exist, and why we do what we do. Wisdom allows you to make the most of your time and be at peace when your life doesn’t always go as you planned.
Our family had suffered through life changing sicknesses, financial issues, family member addiction, and loss of our baby. Then twelve years later on December 17, 1997, our 16-year old son was killed in a car accident.
Until the time we lost Landon in the accident, I faced life’s challenges with an awareness of God, but little faith. Up until this time, I believed “things” happen and you just had to be tough. After a year of struggling with Landon’s death, I came to a fork in the road. My faith would either grow or go to hell. My faith has strengthened. I would like to share how.
Martin Luther King Jr. (1929-1968)
I was raised by two hardworking and loving parents who taught me I could be anything I wanted. In 1974, fate led me to the love of my life, Holly. For the next 10 years, everything was picture-perfect. We began a family in 1977, built our dream home in 1978, and by 1985, our family consisted of four boys and a girl. I owned and operated three family restaurants and five muffler shops with my brother. All of my hard work had paid off, and I was living the American dream.
On August 13, 1985, we lost our infant son, which was very difficult, especially for my wife. In 1990, my brother and I had gone our separate ways in the business By 1993, our oldest son began to struggle with drug addiction. The year 1995, our city began a 19-month road project that resulted in our business dropping in half. December 17, 1997, our son Landon was killed in a car accident. In 1998, our oldest son was faced with eight years of prison due to his continued struggle with addiction. In 2000, my father passed before his time, falling victim to surgical mistakes.
"Our American dream was becoming our American nightmare. Why was this happening?"
For years, I struggled not understanding why all the turmoil. My belief I could be anything I wanted and I had control over my life was shattered. I had no control over what was happening. Our American dream had become our American nightmare. Why was this happening?
After a year of struggling with our second son’s death, a friend of mine wrote, “Larry, if Landon could talk to you now, what would he say? He would say,” Dad get your head out of your butt, take care of Mom, my brothers and my sister, and I’ll see you someday.” At that point I had a choice. My faith would either grow or it would go to hell. Luckily for me and my family, my faith grew.
Fast-forward to May 28, 2010—the day I suffered a stroke that paralyzed my left side. I laid in bed thinking, “Why me? What Now?” Through this stroke, I have been blessed with an understanding of patience and persistence. I walk carefully, and currently type with one hand. However, I am working full time, and life is good! I have been blessed to share my story with others, and this is what I believe:
Proverbs 16:9. “We make our plans, but the Lord guides our steps.” With each of these life challenges, I have been given an opportunity. I have been blessed with a wonderful family and love of my wife of 38 years. My three amazing children have all been blessed with their soul mates, and I have 5 wonderful grandchildren.
Life’s challenges have blessed me with an understanding of the importance of faith, family and friends. It is through faith we receive the gift of hope. It’s by faith our challenges can become opportunities. I would add to Dr. King’s quote to say, “The bigger the challenge the bigger the opportunity.”